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8 Love Lessons à la Deepak Chopra

Deepak Chopra’s well of wisdom can teach us all something about a life well-lived. We’ve looked at some of his greatest insights and applied them to love.

It doesn’t matter how you met, it only matters why you met. And why you met is the reason why you are together. The beauty of all relationships are what we hold near and dear to our heart.

There are so many ways we can let the infinite wisdom of Dr. Deepak Chopra in our lives and find truth, so read on for eight ways to help your relationships grow.


Love doesn’t need reason. It speaks from the irrational wisdom of the heart. ― Deepak Chopra


Sometimes you may meet someone and know in your heart that this will be the person you will spend the rest of your life with—how is this irrational wisdom of the heart possible? Your heart can answer all of your questions before your head decides what may be an answer.

Listening to what your first reaction and heart tells you can work well in helping you find a mate. It may be that irrationality does not play a role at all, it may be that all things are truly rational and as they should be. Finding love is as easy as allowing it to enter into your life. Allow positive energy to flow, do what makes you feel positive and the wisdom of the heart will take over.


Happiness for a reason is just another form of misery because the reason can be taken away from us at any time. ― Deepak Chopra


Reminding myself to be happy was, at times, very difficult. I would always say, “all I want is happiness.” I said this because most of my life was filled with loss, poverty and struggle. I thought if my environment was better, I would be happy. I thought if I had more money, I would be happy. I thought if I had the better relationship, I would be happy. But I wasn’t truly happy until I realized that happiness wasn’t an entity, it was a state of mind.

Being a positive person was a more realistic state to be in, so I strived to be more positive person. A relationship needs your positive approach, even when times are tough. So looking at the positive side of things helps so much.

(Singing “Happy” by Pharrell Williams helps as well.)


Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future. ― Deepak Chopra


In every relationship we find ourselves reacting before we’re thinking clearly about what we’re saying to others. And it happens so easily. You come home from work feeling stressed and your partner may just say the wrong thing. As Deepak Chopra always says, stop and you ask yourself: is this worth an argument? Then situations may unfold differently.


When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. ― Deepak Chopra


There are so many times my husband and myself bump heads while in the course of our day. Often I stop and say, “why don’t we take a look at why we are so upset.” Making a realization about small daily stresses adding up, you can show why you are arguing.

Love is often irrational; and loving someone requires patience. One man I know will pay for everyone’s dinner. With drinks, however, you are on your own. Loving someone, means a acceptance and understanding. His wife simply says, “he is wonderful in every other way, everyone has a flaw that they deal with—this is his to bear, not mine.”


Even when you think you have your life all mapped out, things happen that shape your destiny in ways you might never have imagined. ― Deepak Chopra


This quote is something that I always thought of as my own life was becoming fraught with decisions, plans, the future and far too-many wasted moments. Life passes, things change, people leave the cycle of life.

Every time you think that you have everything you need in life, destiny might have other ideas. Many times I have tried to fight destiny; yet, it would still emerge anyway. So allow destiny to take shape, like a cloud takes shape in the sky. Sometimes your spouse may not understand this, but having a calm willingness to allow for change in your life will guide both of you through any temporary storm.


The Ego, however, is not who you really are. The ego is your self-image; it is your social mask; it is the role you are playing. Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control, and it is sustained by power, because it lives in fear. ― Deepak Chopra, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams


The wonder of possession can take over and create a selfish life filled with power play.

In our relationships, power play often continues throughout our lifetime. As a child, we demand toys to get what we want. As an adult, we demand our lives to be in order, to have control of our present and future—but when things go wrong, our world is toppled over. We no longer have our way and we have to face destiny. Our life is now filled with turmoil that we can not control; and then the perfectly controlled relationship becomes chaos. Learn that possessions are fleeting, places are temporary, security exists within your heart and mind.


When you make a choice, you change the future. —Deepak Chopra


Things may get tough in your relationship; at times, sometimes very tough. While arguing with a partner continually is bad for your health, separation may leave you feeling unresolved. If you decide to get a divorce or split from your current relationship, it will forever-change your future and that of your family.

You may have been trying to solve a problem in an old relationship. Maybe you had a pattern of bad judgment that forced you to do things that may have been inappropriate. Meeting your present mate at this time is a way for you to work out that problem. Take time to evaluate the situation, you may leave and keep finding the same type of person, unless your situation is resolved.


You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible. —Deepak Chopra


A place where everything everyday disturbances do not upset your being, and that is deep within your heart. A place where your relationship will grow and change positively.


All quotations were collected from this website

For more about Deepak Chopra, you can read his bio here.

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About the Author:

Cynthia Fabian

Originally from New York City, Cynthia Fabian now enjoys meditation and the quiet life in Somerset, New Jersey. A general writer, Fabian has written for many regional publications, including NY Newsday. Fabian's first book, now being re-written was entitled, Those Sweet Nothings, a book about dates gone wrong. The book focused on how we can all change our perception of oneself and others. Fabian has also written several children's books that help children and their families overcome obstacles. Fabian has been featured on over 50 radio shows and several television shows regarding her dating book, but also for her help to help children overcome many obstacles in life.