Tired of wasting precious time with I-should-have-known-better dates? Jordan Gray sheds some light on three this-could-be-the-one cues.
You feel like you’ve wasted time with past partners and you don’t want to make the same mistake again.
Well, you’re in luck.
Having coached thousands of people over the past decade and having interviewed dozens of successful long-term marriages in preparation for my next book, I have amassed a large sampling of information regarding the early signs indicating a potentially perfect match.
By determining the potential in your connection early on, you could save yourself from wasting time in unfulfilling relationships.
Here are some pointers to help you decide whether or not your relationship has potential.
1. You Don’t Feel the Need to Pretend
In the first few months of dating a new partner, it’s common to hide behind social masks. You’re both on your best behavior.
“I shouldn’t call her for at least two days. Otherwise, she’ll think I’m too available.”
“I can’t sleep with him until after the third date. Unless I wait, he’ll think I’m easy.”
“She didn’t text me back fast enough so I’m going to ignore her for a few days.”
OH MY GOD, STOP!
Arbitrary dating games don’t serve you and you know it. Being playful, spontaneous, and challenging are great qualities in a romantic partner.
But playing hard to get will just make you hard to love.
In a relationship that has potential, you realize that you don’t need to hide behind social masks.
You don’t have to fake who you are in order for your partner to like you. In fact, being yourself has never been easier.
You both bring out and encourage the best versions of each other with ease.
You feel like you, and quite likely, the best version of you that you’ve been in a very long time.
2. You Do the Things Everyone Tells You Not to Do
There are tons of relationship no-no’s that common sense tells you to avoid in the courting process. But this relationship is different.
At the end of the first month, you’ve found yourself wanting to say that you love them. You want to introduce them to your parents “too quickly.” You’ve made plans for the two of you six months from now without a second thought.
No matter what your friends, family and media tell you is the “right” amount of time to engage in commitment-y behavior, you found yourself breaking all the rules—often without guilt or any weirdness.
Take this as a sign. This one’s a keeper.
3. Everything is Different
The sex, the conversational chemistry, the ease with which you established a deep connection with each other… for some reason, everything about this relationship feels different.
She’s the first girl that you want to proudly show off to your parents and friends. He puts all of your past relationships in his shadow. You now realize why all of your exes are your exes.
Maybe committing to someone used to seem downright terrifying, but now you’re practically picking out names for your future children in your mind.
Maybe this whole “one person forever” concept isn’t too scary after all!
Still not sure if your relationship has potential?
If you still find yourself uncertain after reading these tips, you might need to stop thinking and start feeling.
Your emotions often know better than your mind when it comes to love.
[image: via Richard foster on flickr]