The perfect relationship begins long before you’ve met that special someone. Take these 7 suggestions to heart and begin working on you so that you can prepare for the perfect relationship in the future.
Before you can find that perfect someone, you have to feel prepared to find him or her. So many people enter into relationships only to find that they are dating the wrong person. This often happens because we make some pivotal mistakes when we are single and seeking a romantic relationship.
If you are looking to prepare for the ‘perfect‘ relationship—one that makes you feel like a better person, challenges you to look at some of your shortcomings and brings out your best—the first place you have to look for that special someone is within.
It is so common for both men and women to seek relationships that aren‘t good for them because they aren‘t sure of what they need. If you can‘t feel confident in who you are and in your singleness, you aren‘t going to feel secure in a relationship with someone else either.
The following 7 tips will help you prepare yourself to find that special someone. Remember, the better you feel about who you are, the better someone else is going to feel about you in the relationship, too.
1. Take Time to Figure Yourself Out.
Think about who you are, not who you want to be. Think about what it is that you need, not what someone else may need. Spend time alone and feel good about it.
2. Strengthen Friendships, Build Interests, & Create a Support System.
So often I see folks get into relationships and go ‘all in.‘ They throw aside their own interests, friends and needs to be with someone. When this happens, the relationship eventually crumbles. Having a sense of individuality is important in even the strongest relationships. Make sure you build your life for you, not for finding someone else. If you build a life for you, that someone else will come and ideally, fit right in.
3. Know What You’re Looking For & What You’re Not.
Think about what is most important to you. Pick a few things that absolutely important to you to find in a partner, or a few things that are absolutely important not to find in a partner. If you find someone that meets a few integral criteria, you can let go of the rest and compromise on things that aren‘t as vital.
Practice truly can make perfect. When you are preparing for an interview, you probably practice—either with yourself or with a good friend. Dating casually can help in the same way. Learn what settings you feel most yourself in, and what settings make you feel uncomfortable. Learn more about what types of people you are drawn to and what types you‘d like to avoid. Get out there! Breathe. Enjoy.
5. Be you.
When you are putting yourself out there to meet that special someone, put yourself out there. Don‘t sugar coat. Be who you are and seek others who do the same. Save yourself some grief of being with someone who doesn‘t love you for you, or who you don‘t love for them. Be true to who you are and show up as yourself. You may find a relationship by being someone else, but it certainly won‘t be the relationship that lasts.
6. Don‘t settle.
You deserve to be with someone who loves you for you. You deserve to be with someone that makes you feel good about yourself, and who you like being with! Don‘t settle for anything less. Life is too short. Enjoy it. If you meet someone that doesn‘t feel great to you, move on. There truly are many, many types of fish in the sea—you deserve the one that is best for you.
7. Remember ‘Perfect‘ May Not Always Seem So.
Your ‘happily ever after‘ may indeed come, but it probably won‘t always be so happy. That‘s OK. Relationships require a lot of work and attention. Those couples that work toward staying together, communicating, being honest and trying to maintain a strong relationship usually are the ones that go the distance. If you are looking for the ‘perfect‘ relationship that doesn‘t include any hardships, you‘re going to be looking for quite a long time.
Remember to take these 7 suggestions to heart and begin working on you so that you can prepare for the perfect relationship in the future.
[image: via Sean McGrath on flickr]