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How to Create the Perfect Username for Online Dating Success

Candace Wong

Sorry, Charlie1234, the plain and blah approach isn’t going to cut it. Create the perfect username and mantra to take your online dating to the next level.   

Using online dating to find your next relationship?

It has become socially accepted to find love online and nowadays one in three married couples have met online. Even with the tremendous growth in dating sites one-third of online users have never been on a date1.

Are you one of them? Do you have empty inboxes with no messages or from no one you’d like to date?

If you want to be in a relationship, this article will teach you how make your profile more attractive and memorable—leading to more dates. I will show you how to create an attention-grabbing, unique username that represents you and a matching mantra to help you stand out in the crowd.

Unless you have truly given up on dating, there is no reason why you cannot find love online, too! Let me show you how.

Call Me Username

A usernames is what you call yourself in your online profile.

It is your brand and your identity on a dating site in a sea of singles.

When I polled Facebook users for their tips on creating usernames I got vague advice like “be yourself” and “be authentic,” “use your name,” and comments such as “usernames are not at all important, as long as they are not terrible.”


Imagine you found 20 people online attractive. You’ve been around the block a couple times and know it’s important to write customized messages to each person. But the fact is, it’s been a long day and you’re tired. So you narrow things down to who had the most appealing profiles, writing to the top singles you found attractive from your search.

If you have a memorable username and headline on your profile, you could be one of the five receiving a thoughtful message.

That is the power of a username!

You want your name to create intrigue and curiosity from a user so they click to know more about you.

Just scroll through some profiles right now and see which usernames stand out. I’m guessing not many.  A unique, memorable username makes such a difference on your profile that it will lead to more messages. And, good news: as a new or seasoned online dating user you CAN improve your username.

But coming up with a clever name can be a struggle. The creative process can feel a lot like having writer’s block; those are the moments you resort to “IamMike1234” or “Sunflowers1982” —plain and blah. 

Here’s how to come up with an eye-catching username that makes people want to click on your profile.

Step 1 – Choose two of your favorite interests, topics, or subjects. For example, I love fitness and knitting.

Step 2 – Make a list of simple, related words to your two interests. You want to avoid any complicated words because a username has limited characters. For example, yarn, purl, gym, yoga, instead of tunisian, fair isle, or deadlift.

Step 3 – Go visit This site will help you generate a list of additional words that sound alike and synonyms for witty names. Using your list of words come up with different combinations.

Here are some examples,

  • Instead of AlphaMale whynot Alfamale? A twist on the word “alpha” if you love Alfa Romeo cars.
  • Love margaritas and dancing? SalsaNClinks or EndwithASwirl
  • A hobby of reading yoga books and teaching yoga? IReadDownDog

Following these steps and you will create a unique usernames with personality—all the more memorable.

You Made Me Laugh. *Click*

Profiles that use overused clichés as their headline or personal mantra are everywhere.

  • “Looking for Mr. Right”
  • “I’m the real deal”
  • “Are you my special someone?”

Better alternatives include using song lyrics or memorable movie one liners. You want your mantra to catch the reader’s attention and make them laugh or smile. It is an opportunity for a memorable first impression. Make it stand out!

The best headlines are the ones that link with your username; it’s a way to continue the story of yourself from your username to your headline.

People who resonate with your headline and click already have similarities with you; they recognize your one liner and/or username. For example, if you are a doctor and your username is WhatsUpDoc, your headline can read “Four out of five doctors recommend me.”

Another example can be IReadDownDog, with a mantra of “Invigorate Your Mind With Me”

Other funny original headlines are,

  • “Click to Add to Cart”
  • “Just like a new job, I offer excellent benefits”

With matching usernames these mantras can be a riot! And when you get a positive response at this stage of the browsing from users, you are more likely to receive a message.

Don’t’ try to put too-deep meaning into your mantras; the mantra should be a reflection of your personality, otherwise it will come across as unauthentic and contrived. Headline word limits can also make things sound cheesy and cliché, so focus on using this space to make someone laugh or smile.

Sometimes your unique and memorable username and mantra could be the ONLY reason you get a message.

Next Steps

A great username and mantra is not a substitute for attractive, recent head shots, and a well written profile. Instead, they’re part of the whole package, each element enhancing the other.

Still having trouble coming up with a catchy username and headline? For personalized help and tips click here for my free guide which is filled with word generators for ideas and includes an easy to use username worksheet with additional examples.


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About the Author:

Candace Wong Candace Wong

Are you using technology to find love? Feel like you are running out of men to date and frustrated by the non-committals but ready for a real relationship? My name is Candace, a love coach for single, professional women looking for real, long-lasting love. If you are ready for commitment, learn how to identify men who are ready too with my free online e-guide at



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