With millions of singles who frequent online dating sites, there’s only one thing to consider: Do you know how to make your online dating profile stand out?
So you’ve decided to sign up with MeetMindful. Everything’s going nicely until you’re prompted to create a profile.
You might stare at the screen, wondering how you can sell yourself without sounding like a narcissist or desperate. Trust me, you aren’t the only one. Nearly every person who tries online dating for the first time hits this wall. Fortunately, I have some tips to help you create a stellar profile that will make you stand out from other singles on the site.
1. Ask for help.
There’s no shame in asking your friends for help when you are trying to create a profile. Your friends can point out your best qualities, even if you don’t recognize them.
2. Ditch the normal responses.
Even if you do enjoy walking on the beach or watching the sunset while sipping wine on the rooftop… you don’t want to actually say it on your profile. Instead, be unique and add a conversation starter.
3. List hobbies you can do with others.
People want to see how they can be part of your life, so when you talk about enjoying solo hobbies—like reading, knitting, or writing—people will assume you aren’t social. You can be honest about yourself by including these activities, but also include activities like flying a kite, hiking, or playing tennis. Allow potential dates to imagine themselves fitting into your life.
4. Choose pictures of you doing stuff.
You might think people only want to see what you look like when they look at your profile picture; however, you’d be surprised to know that if you have a picture where you are doing something—like parasailing, hiking, meditating, traveling, riding horses—you’ll get more responses. Rather than just a picture of your face (which you should still include), you will reveal your interests and personality through pictures.
5. Avoid being negative.
When you talk about certain aspects of your life, don’t use negative language. You wouldn’t feel drawn to date someone if you got a negative vibe from their profile, so you shouldn’t do it either. Instead, try to put your best foot forward and be positive by talking about things/people you do like, that do interest you, that you do want to attract.
6. Honesty is the best policy.
It may be tempting to exaggerate certain aspects of yourself—like your income, life experiences, or career—in an effort to attract others, but the truth has a funny way of coming out. Instead of risking what could be a good thing by lying, simply be honest.
7. Keep updating your profile.
You may think that once you create your profile, you’re finished. You could leave it at that, but why? There are certainly things going on in your life that constantly change, so it’s a good idea to update the goings on in your profile. For example, maybe you relocated recently or you got a promotion. Maybe you’re trying a new hobby or just considering one. It’s always a good idea to have the most up-to-date information available on your profile.
In addition to the photo of you doing something, you definitely want to make sure you’re smiling in another picture you choose. People are naturally drawn to someone who smiles; you’ll appear more relaxed and approachable—both excellent qualities for getting to know someone.
When you are preparing to fill out your profile, think of it as an application. You want to make sure you talk yourself up so that people will be interested in getting to know more about you, but in an honest (and humble) way. If you already have a dating profile up and you aren’t getting many messages, try these tips and see how quickly your inbox fills up.
About the Author
Richard is a contributing writer with meetmindful.com. He is freelance writer who covers industry-specific topics such as Internet marketing, SEO, social media, content marketing, branding, email marketing, analytics, entrepreneurship, small business solutions, technology, web design and Word Press development. You can contact Richard through Facebook and LinkedIn.