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Your Personal Introduction to Tantric Sex

Long-term relationships can hold the non-judgmental space needed to deepen your partnership. Consider this introduction to tantric sex a new way to expand.

There is some serious seasonal romance in the air and often this leads to an exploration of new methods and ways of relating to an already existing partner, or a desire to attract another person with the mere mention of “attaining oneness with God” through deeply woven intimate connecting.

That’s all we want anyway, isn’t it?

To be one in consciousness with our beloved partner, adding in all the “in sickness and health” and “until death do us part” stuff too. A union of this kind with another is the crème de la crème, an awakening of two people who choose each other and travel down a path of no resistance. They have already been there and done that, now it is eye-opening bonding of the greatest and most magical magnitude.

Tantra is a Sanskrit word that depicts the weaving of man to woman and humanity to the divine. In today’s age, we can leave out gender labeling and merely define it as, “two people whose sole purpose is to become one with God.” Tantra is the essential and deepest of lovemaking where all the senses of the root chakra are embraced to enlightenment.

This beautiful and whole practice is looking for transcendence through spiritual consciousness. If we are lucky and blessed to experience this union outside of the normal day-to-day togetherness activity within a partnership, then it is worth holding out for. I know I am.

It is common to fall into the everyday sexual and egotistical activity that satisfies us humans on a daily basis. The dance and romance and lust goes along nicely and routinely, until one partner expresses a need to explore further the meaning behind the union and love and, “why are we in this thing right now?” moments. Tantra is the answer to many a prayer, if only we knew enough about it, without the fear and judgment.

I recently had a chat with a dear soul sister on this very notion and how it evolved. She so openly shared her insights and experiences and wisdom. I took copious amounts of notes and am delivering them to you as we speak. If I had shared in a trantic phase with a love partner, it was more of the wide-eyed open type of contact during our lovemaking; and once it became clear what the heart and soul were feeling, the fear set in. Put on the brakes!

For all you spring chickens wanting to inject an adventurous spirit into your behind-the-scenes melding of bodies, I welcome you to this cornucopia of different styles of lovemaking. It’s not taboo. It’s not to be hidden or ashamed of, or even blurted out at parties; it is to be treasured between you and the person you have chosen to share this awesome life with. The rest is simply gravy.

Authentic intimacy is a gift. It is a kundalini energy raised through the root chakra as the entry point and moved on from there, and every religion has a practice devoted to Tantra within that specific religion. Some are more aware and alive than others, yet some are more secretive and ashamed than most. The purpose of this type of spiritual transcendence is to further our collective hearts into the most enlightened possible way. It is another step towards how our society is evolving.

These are the five different types of lovemaking before achieving the Tantric soulful energetic oneness. Maybe you have already practiced some, but are too much into a boring routine and might need a refresher on what is happening in your partnership, or you have no clue what it’s all about and want to learn. Take a deep breath, open the mind and soul and dive right in:

Meat and Potatoes – This is the basic stuff that has no fluff or flare. It’s all too common and could use a bit of spicing up with Tantric depth and flavor.

Quickies – We all fall into this description from time to time, yet most kundalini practitioners have mastered the art of getting past this point to the more heat and rising of the soul.

Gourmet Dining – Just as the name implies, there is some lust and foreplay and relative treats for the entire “meal.”  Consciousness remains prevalent and life flows in a higher realm than simply 10 minutes, and a treat is always added as bonus.

Spicy – Think about the famous book/movie that recently took the world by storm. It begins with the number “50.”

Ambrosia – Here is the epitome of Tantra and its meaning. Synchronized breathing, eye gazing, meditating together and spiritual connection are all involved in this salad of savory delights. We blend the God-consciousness into an activity that lifts up our senses and sends it into a more fruitful experience that can’t be matched.

Most couples would benefit from a Tantric workshop to understand more about the quality of going past the basics and having the highest intimate partnership. If it means holding out and never settling until this happens, it’s OK. If it means that the current journey with another could include an injection of love of this magnitude, I feel the heavens just did an angelic dance of sorts, knowing our divine evolution was meant to be here all along.

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About the Author:

Gerry Ellen

Gerry Ellen is an author, creative storyteller, and wellness advocate. She enjoys sharing her experiences of life, love, and all things meaningful and healthy through words and images. She is a regular contributor to MeetMindful, Be You Media Group, Tattooed Buddha, and Rebelle Society. As a former featured columnist on elephant journal and Light Workers World, she considers her love of nature and the outdoors, heart-centered connections, friends and family, and traveling to explore and expand as the epicenter of her world. She is extremely driven with her service work through 8 Paws Wellness with her dog, Scout. Gerry Ellen has authored and published two books, Ripple Effects (March 2012) and A Big Piece of Driftwood (April 2014), which are both available on


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