Finding your tribe can be a long process, but it doesn’t have to. Meeting other conscious singles was just condensed to three little tips. You’re welcome.
Being unable to meet the kind of people who are a fit for you is a common complaint. I often say you wouldn’t be frustrated if you were not committed to being in an extraordinary relationship.
If you’re interested in meeting conscious and available singles, I have three secrets to help you get over the hump and start meeting more aware and healthy singles.
1. Get yourself clear on what “conscious” means to you.
By conscious, do you mean someone who participates in personal growth and development work faithfully? Do you believe a conscious person is spiritual, reflective, aware and/or insightful?
The definition of conscious, according to dictionary.com, is:
1. aware of one’s own existence, sensations, thoughts, surroundings, etc.
2. fully aware of or sensitive to something.
3. known to oneself; felt.
4. aware of what one is doing.
5. aware of oneself; self-conscious.
6. deliberate; intentional.
Everyone has their own specific context for the word conscious. My point is, it’s important to know what it looks like for YOU. Believe me, understanding this makes it much easier to spot this trait in another.
For myself, a conscious partner is someone who loves to grow and develop, both as an individual and as a couple. He believes in the power of completion and is a great communicator. He also takes responsibility for his own actions. What’s your view of a conscious partner?
2. Identify where other conscious singles go and hang out.
I hear time and time again, “I want a self-aware partner,” yet the speakers sit home and do nothing. They do not email people back online.
That does not make any sense.
If you desire to be with a conscious partner, consider where such people would hang out. If you want a spiritual person, go to that spiritual practice location, attend and participate. And of course, think about what dating sites they would use. That’s the key!
Going once may not do the trick. If you want someone who loves personal growth and development work, then become a regular at those kind of events and participate. Ask good questions and get to know people. People know I’m famous for asking someone playfully, “So are you single and dating, in a relationship or married?” You may be wondering, why do I recommend this? The answer to this question lets you know right away if someone is available or not. I believe in cutting to the chase.
3. A conscious person uses conscious language.
Listen carefully to the people you meet. Do they use words like “aware,” “spiritual,” “personal growth,” and “reflection?” If they don’t, this is a tell-tale sign that a person may not be very conscious.
Can this person become conscious, sure… but do you want to train them? I’ve done years and years of personal growth work. If I met someone starting from where I began, do you know how long it would take them to catch up? It would probably be about ten years. I don’t mean to be harsh about it, but if you’re a conscious person, I bet you know exactly how long it took you to get there.
My point is, finding a mate who is already conscious or even more conscious than you would be easier than trying to get someone to be conscious. Get my drift?
I recommend listening to what someone says. If he or she is using similar language to yours when you ask about conscious living, spirituality and personal growth, you could be on to something. If they don’t know what conscious is or you get the “deer in the headlights” look, they may not be a good fit for you. You’re looking for someone who is on the same page. You get each other and you can both speak the same mindful and aware language. Right?
As you’re out looking for a conscious and aware partner who is a great fit for you, keep in mind these three secrets. Are you clear what conscious looks like for you? Where do these conscious people go? Finally, are they using conscious language? These three tips will help you on your way to meeting someone that is mindful and conscious—just like you!
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