in: Dating & Relationships

Online Dating is Direct & That’s Why It Works

Leslie Malchy

We’re way over the anything-but-awesome public impressions of online daters. Direct intentions drive online dating and that’s why it’s thriving.


We may believe that online dating symbolizes a failure to meet someone in your everyday life.

Here are four reasons why it is not.

1. Your date is already waiting for you.

Dating online puts you in the direct line of other people who are looking for a relationship right nowBy making a profile, they are putting energy toward the same goal that you are. Period. It doesn’t mean that they are the rejected pile at the bottom of the stack, it means that they are creating an intention for a relationship.

2. Online dating has a clarity of purpose.

There are so many variables about how we meet people. The mood we are in at the time, our busy schedules, our relationship status. Why take a chance on meeting someone only to find out they are not looking for a relationship or are partnered already? You wouldn’t go shopping for lightbulbs in the produce aisle. Don’t let randomness get in the way of your goal of being in a relationship or getting on the pathway to one.

3. Setting intentions works.

Think about it. Why would you want to leave up to chance, the possibility that you may just ‘run into’ someone perfect for you? Why is it more romantic if it happens by chance? You are more likely to meet your goals of say, losing weight, if you are intentional about what you eat instead of leaving to chance what shows up in your fridge. Like most things in life, being better prepared and more intentional is more helpful. So ask yourself, why in this area of your life, would you be any less intentional and action-oriented? Start acting now.

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4. You can ask for (exactly) what you want.

It can take a heck of a lot of courage to put yourself out there on a dating website profile. And yet, many people do it. It is the opposite of “having something wrong with you.” It is actually having the dignity to go for what you want… to ask for what you want. Have pride in your courage when you take a chance on fast forwarding the process of meeting someone.

 

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About the Author:

Leslie Malchy Leslie Malchy

Leslie Malchy is a Relationship psychotherapist working in private practice, Soft Landing Therapy, in Downtown Vancouver, BC, Canada. She is an experiential therapist working from a bio-psycho-social-spiritual and strengths based framework of change. She holds a Master of Science degree in Psychiatry from McGill University and a Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology with a specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy from Antioch University Seattle. When Leslie is not working, she is busy writing creative and literary fiction, tending to and growing kale in her community garden plot or jogging along Vancouver’s gorgeous Stanley Park seawall.

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