There’s healthy communication and there are control issues. Allana Pratt helps one woman determine whether or not she should have to check in with her beau.
Question:
Do you feel it necessary to have to check in with your live-in boyfriend, every time you leave the house—if you have been gone for more than 10 minutes?
Answer:
Love, I feel like there is an even deeper question you really want to ask… yet, let’s address exactly what you asked first.
No, you don’t have to check in all the time like you’re on parole. And yet… there is a lovely kindness to offer your partner to let them know you’re popping out so they don’t worry. You wouldn’t want to think your partner is in the living room and when you look, they’re no where to be found—no note, no text… nothing—that might make you worried, yes? So good manners would just say, Hey love, I’m popping out, back in 10 😉
Yet your question makes me feel like there’s a deeper control issue going on here, like you’re navigating the ebbs and flow of living together, that there may be an opportunity to put a deal in place so each feels honored, free and alive withIN the relationship.
Do you feel under the microscope? Were your parents super controlling so you vowed never to have anyone control you again, and you’re actually not telling your BF simple things to try to gain control of your life away from your parents, yet unknowingly hurting him in the meantime? Or did you attract a controlling BF like your controlling parents?
SO MANY QUESTIONS FOR YOUR QUESTION!! Ha!
It sounds like you desire to be an independent woman being honored in a healthy successful relationship, yes? That’s totally possible with a healthy set of communication skills, a calm open heart that flows kindness, and is in allowance of navigating differences in opinion toward a common resolution. I can help you with this for not only this relationship, but all relationships so that you elicit respect, enjoy freedom, and honor those around you who care.
I invite you to apply for a complementary strategy session; if you’re a 10 out of 10 ready to change this for the better so you don’t lose this man, you shift and strengthen your intimate relationship and take it to the next level of connection, joy, and sacred union. Go to www.AllanaPratt.com/connect and say MeetMindful sent you!
Tiny hinges swing big doors, some subtle shifts can create huge results in your world!
Huge love, Allana xoxox