in: Intentional Living

Men, Let’s Stop Fooling Ourselves: Size Matters

Well.. we thought the jury was still out, but Joshua Hathaway doesn’t seem to agree. Read up on his definitive ruling that, yes, indeed… size matters.

—This article was originally published by our friends at elephant journal; we’re republishing (with permission!) because we love it… and them. Enjoy.— 

Men, let’s stop fooling ourselves: size matters.

I guess all those exercises I have been doing to grow my member have been paying off, ’cause I got hit with a situation recently that really…tested my size.

I had an experience the other day that I keep returning to.

I keep picking it up, and running my fingers across the smooth parts, and fondling the rough edges.

I keep turning it over and feeling the contrasting textures with a sense of curiosity.

The essence of it is this: I was able to entertain competing emotional experiences simultaneously without having to shut down. The experience reminded me of the Bernard Loomer quote (that I first heard over a decade ago in Non-Violent Communication circles):

“By S-I-Z-E I mean the stature of [your] soul, the range and depth of [your] love, [your] capacity for relationships. I mean the volume of life you can take into your being and still maintain your integrity and individuality, the intensity and variety of outlook you can entertain in the unity of your being without feeling defensive or insecure. I mean the strength of your spirit to encourage others to become freer in the development of their diversity and uniqueness. I mean the power to sustain more complex and enriching tensions. I mean the magnanimity of concern to provide conditions that enable others to increase in stature.”


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About the Author

Joshua Hathaway, M.A. is a contributor to elephant journal. When he is not writing, coaching clients, facilitating Compassionate Leadership workshops or getting distracted on Facebook, he can usually be found hunting for paradoxes, adventuring in wild landscapes, pouring exquisite tea from tiny teapots, dancing in sweat-drenched ecstasy to dirty trap music, or strumming out a song on his cedar-top Takamine. Connect with him on his website or on Facebook.

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