in: Dating & Relationships

Embracing Every Little Bit of This Thing Called Love

We’re saying “farewell” to self-loathing and “no way” to shame. It’s time to embrace this thing called love, in all its shapes and all its glory. 

There has been a dramatic increase of pervasive sexual energy of late. Raw, bold, sensual, and powerfully enticing energy that pulls you into feeling it in places which leaves you breathless! Secret places. Places where we only allow our most trusted lover or forgiving stranger to know. It whispers in your ear to come hither and let it seduce you; bringing you to your knees in supplication before you can even gasp in unsuspecting surprise.

This beguiling temptress clouds herself in the essence of earthy musk, silky sweetness, and spicy erotica. She walks past leaving you with a longing for more than just her lovely backside. Oh, and how does one make you want them even more the farther she slowly struts away?  Don’t let her go, you say to yourself. Don’t let her walk away—and just like that, before you even realize it, your legs are moving, your hands are reaching, and your kiss… oh, your kiss is wanting!

How does one quench this burning fire of passionate love? How does one even allow it to surface for drenching?! We are told over and over again this “lust” that gets ignited within us is surely not L-O-V-E, capital lettered, Love. That can only happen within the confines of a pre-agreed institution; T’s crossed, I’s dotted, solid contract of commitment! Well I say F-*-C-K, capital lettered, F*ck that!

Love is love!

Love is love in any form it finds itself manifested. Love is that pulsing, rolling, building heat that starts in your heart and works its way down to your OH! MMmmmmm…  Yeah, right there.

When you decide to put focus and intention into loving yourself, someone else—or many someone else’s—you are honoring that which binds all of us together like glue. You have not only placed the intention of transferring that crouched and hidden sexual tiger into the physical manifestation of your King to her Queen, but you have solidified that prayer of love into the purest of forms ever: Sacred Union.

Let’s give it up to God for bequeathing us such a magically erotic and unbelievably bliss-filled outlet of expressing that honoring of Love. How can something that feels so right, be considered such a foul thing to experience and proudly give to another in any way, shape, or form? So how about from this point forward, we ditch what our parents, auntie’s and uncles, older friends, or even porn have taught us about Love, Sex, and Intimacy. OH SNAP! Yup, that’s right, I said intimacy!

Each word is just an aspect of love so why shy away from this one word? Is it because it rings too close to that other cringe-worthy word called, “Vulnerability?” Ewww… I can actually feel your stomach turn from here. Come on, people! What is wrong with being real with your lover—even if it means for only a night or a lifetime? 

Choosing to be open and vulnerable with your lover allows him or her to be exactly what you need them to be! To fill all of your desires, fantasies, and even help alleviate those annoying insecurities you try so hard not to let us see. And you can just drop the act right now, lover. I see them. Every single one of them, and I’m still here, still smiling, and still wanting you.

I see the self-doubt disguised as boastful confidence. I see the pain of past, traumatic experience blanketed in jokes and brevity. I see the deep yearning for something real underneath the bravado of aloofness. You can’t fool me and you can’t fool love. I see what you want and I want to give it to you. So why not let me? Why not drop the act and be real for one moment? Why not allow the charade to end and let me see you?

I promise, you will never forget the experience of absolute vulnerability mixed with utter authenticity. 

happy, couple, love, fun, swimming, waterIf you drop the curtains and allow me to see that which is your deepest desire for fulfillment, I will fulfill and then some. Sure, you’ll be scared and fearful at first, everyone is their first time, but that’s where one must take a leap of faith and jump into the abyss of unknown sexual, sensual, and loving experience.

If you can’t trust me, then trust yourself to know that whatever happens, at least you tried and didn’t stop yourself. You will never have that, “what if…,” longing so many people who stop themselves for imagined fears have. And isn’t that what life is all about? Jumping head-first into an unknown experience in order to say at least you tried it once.

If you answered no, then you most of all need this.

I’m not just talking about me here. I’m talking for all of us.

I know all of us have this inner-dragon that is just waiting for that perfect treasure to pull the breath of fire from within us without. The only problem is that exact “looking for others” to pull this fire from us. We continue misplacing our power in the keeping of others so we can leave room for pointing blame when everything goes wrong. Notice I said “when” and not “if,” because (admit it) your fatalistic views on finding that “one who completes you in all ways imaginable” is pretty much permanent at this point. 

I ask that we stop doing this. 

I plead that we all recapture our personal empowerment of elegant, sexual energy and utilize it for our own pleasures. I beg you not to use others as a substitute for something you can only find within yourself. Once we re-learn how to focus our choices inward, we find what we’ve been searching for since the first time we recognized the pleasure one finds in touching and honoring our own bodies (Oh yeah, I went there). Touching yourself is just another honoring of love, you are loving yourself and that’s perfectly beautiful.

So how do we manifest that perfectly imperfect, messy and exquisite conundrum we call Love? How do we find that perfect individual, or group of individuals, that compliment us and our definition of what we know to be Love? We start with ourselves first. We look ourselves in the mirror as if we are seeing our lover for the first time in all of their magnificent glory and we say, “You are beautiful. You are majestic. You are perfect. I love you.” 

Once you learn to love and accept all of you in your perfect imperfection, you will start to attract others who have learned to do the same with themselves. Like attracts like, remember?

I love you.

About the Author

Kimberly SteinKimberly Stein is a newly awakened old soul wishing to pass on the light of her lessons to those willing to listen. She is a reiki practitioner, trance channel, clear intuitive, and spiritual healer. She has no authority on anything she writes outside of her own personal experiences. She hasn’t written a book or traveled the world (yet). She hasn’t even dipped her toe out of California for over 10 years, but she still feels she has a story to tell and one worth listening to, which is all the authority she needs. If you would like to know more about her and the voice she speaks with you can see her here at or “like” her Facebook page. You can also follow her on Twitter and be notified each time she has something to share.

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