As I grew up in this society, I learned that more-masculine characteristics were the traits that earned me more respect and acceptance—much more so than my innately feminine ones.
So, for the longest time I pushed my assertiveness, independence, logic, etc. as a way to prove myself worthy of existing in this world.
One of the most important concepts I took away while getting my gender studies degree was that people, regardless of their biological gender, can have and exude any characteristics that they so please. I also learned that there are some vitally important traits that are linked to femininity that we as a culture could celebrate more and develop further. I should not be afraid to reveal these traits; in fact, I should embrace them and utilize the full power of my femininity.
In honor of Women’s Day, here are eight feminine-esque traits worthy of our full-embrace and celebration
This trait has many layers to it. For example: there are elements of nurturing, care and consideration. People who are thoughtful often plan ahead to make everything go smoother and they make sure other people are remembered and know that they are valued.
There’s a softness, a slight curviness, a delicateness to feminine beauty. It’s striking, but it doesn’t strike. It can be touching, mesmerizing, heart-stopping. It’s not something that has to be forced—it exists naturally.
This exists when a person sees someone else suffering, relates to the pain, and tries to ease it—even if the only easing available is mutual understanding.
Taking risks with expression and emotion is what helps connect us as humans; it’s a powerful characteristic to have and though it might create more opportunity for pain or heartbreak, it also opens up more opportunity for deeper loving relationships.
The “gut” feeling we often get when something either really good or really bad is about to happen, when we listen to it, become in tune with it, we solve problems before they come to fruition. It can feel almost psychic in nature but in reality it’s just being in harmony with the surrounding environment.
Even-tempered and capable of being the calm during every storm. Patience is definitely a learned skill and an oh-so-helpful one to have in everyday situations.
Sensuality is the willingness to slow down, explore and discover what really works while utilizing all that the body has to offer in regards to sexual pleasure. The fun is in the journey not the end result.
It’s that internal glow that shines so bright it reaches the skin’s surface and makes one’s entire aura fill a room with positive energy.
Of course this isn’t an all-inclusive list; and just because these traits are often associated with the feminine doesn’t mean we all can’t learn to incorporate them more into our lives. They are indeed fabulous traits to possess, some might say that learning the proper ways to execute these characteristics to the fullest would expand one’s feminine power for the betterment of not just one’s personal life, but the surrounding environment as well.
We should definitely take the time to celebrate the women in our lives as well as all the overlooked feminine traits that make us beautiful and well-rounded individuals.
[photo: via Rameshng 〄 on flickr]