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How Personal Transformation Can Help or Hinder a Relationship

woman talks to her boyfriend in a laundromat about the personal transformation she's been experiencing

Tracee Dunblazier

When we’re experiencing our own period of personal transformation, we sometimes forget it can have implications for those we’re in relationship with, too.


Under all circumstances, wanting to be a better person is admirable. It’s something we all strive for. But, what happens to your relationship when you make those long sought-after changes? It should make everything better, right? Personal transformation and relationships are a funny thing. As you understand the first, the impact on the second—while maybe not pleasurable—makes sense.

Enlightenment is a process of lightening up. Meaning: your burden, confusion, and selfishness are giving way to joy, clarity, and presence. Sometimes we enter into relationships based on the burdens we carry and the very thing that we are trying to unload. It makes perfect sense that the relationships centered around our deepest wounds can disappear as quickly as the process of healing them.

Burden to Joy:

What is a burden, really? It’s the weight of your ungrieved spirit seeking acknowledgement and release. The more you receive its presence with compassion, it transforms into grief. Embracing this process creates a lightness unlike any other experience you can have, not even a good adrenaline rush compares.

In a relationship:

The beginning perception of a person who is new to the process of transformation to their stationary partner is repulsion. They begin to witness their movement and lightness in reference to the perceived negativity or misery of their partner. Phrases like higher or lower vibration, positive or negative attitude, or old or new soul are all common in this phase of development. A relationship created in this place is all about inner conflict and outer struggle. It’s possible to make this work but you must choose patience.

Confusion to Clarity:

It is through our emotions that we decipher and relate to our world. Confusion then, is the next logical phase of lightening up. Confusion means you are fluctuating between dominance and submission. In certain scenarios, you perceive and desire the illusion of control. In others, you give over to the dominance of others.

In a relationship:

This phase of lightening up helps you to consciously recognize that you see your world how you see yourself. Victimization is a popular sentiment in this process, so a relationship here can often be volatile and steeped in conflict. Sometimes, things are over as quickly as they start. The true spiritual purpose of these relationships are to promote the release of ungrieved pain on every level. On the up side: they are an efficient way of healing.

Selfishness to Presence:

Self-awareness is not a gift, it is earned over lifetimes and the hard won battles of self-mastery. The process of becoming present is to recognize that your anger is a tool you use to be present in the moment when you are not. The more you can not get mad, but become present to what is happening, the easier you will recognize whatever you need in the moment and will, in turn, readily have access to it.

In a relationship:

Peacefulness, to a victim, is boring. If that phrase made you angry, you are contending with your burdens but will soon experience a powerful transformation. If that phrase made you irritated or sad but you heard it, you are squarely in your confusion here, and your goal is to surrender to the emotional movement at this time. Don’t try to understand right now, just feel. If you giggled a little at this phrase because you know that’s right, you have surrendered to being at peace with your past and feel anchored in your present. No matter which response you have, you will attract partners who mirror the same thing back to you.

It’s important to understand we are all traveling through all of these phases of enlightenment at any given time and in relationship to different circumstances. A truly enlightened person knows it is not the absence of burden that gives us wisdom… it is the joy with which we pummel each one that does. So do yourself a favor: In your relationships, be patient with yourself love one another and don’t resist the flow of movement. It’s the shortest distance to exactly where you want to go.


 

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About the Author:

Tracee Dunblazier Tracee Dunblazier

Tracee Dunblazier, GC-C, CCDC, spiritual empath, shaman, educator, author and speaker is based in Los Angeles, California. Tracee specializes in grief counseling, energy dynamics, Shamanic healing, past life and soul recovery, transition strategy, addiction transformation, and space clearings. In 2015, Tracee founded GoTracee Publishing LLC and BeASlayer.com to publish a new hybrid of self-help, memoir, and spiritual book to access a wider audience of spiritual seekers. As a multi-sensitive, Tracee blends information that she receives intuitively with different modalities to create a unique healing plan for every client. Every session is focused on freeing the client from their presenting issue to release, empower, and heal – no matter what the condition. Tracee’s compassionate, humorous, down-to-earth style supports and empowers clients as tender topics are addressed during the session. An accomplished author, Tracee has written two books on the topic of personal soul excavation and deep healing from soul to body. Book one: The Demon Slayer's handbook: A Practical Guide to Mastering Your Inner World addresses inner mental, emotional, and spiritual mastery through self-awareness and spirit guide communication. Book two: The Demon Slayer's handbook: A Practical Guide to Self- Healing and Unconditional Love empowers cultural awareness and understanding through looking at the concept of past lives and soul imprints. Tracee’s published articles cover many subjects related to spirituality and relationships while her blog breaks down current events and daily energy dynamics that everyone experiences. Tracee’s been a guest on many prominent television and radio programs informing others about spirituality and sacred ritual practices. Tracee teaches workshops, webinars, and offers two online courses on the DailyOm.com. As well as speaking engagements touching on subjects like grief, death & dying, unconditional love, self- acceptance, and healing. Contact Tracee at TraceeDunblazier.com

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