Can you make a relationship work if your parents give zero support? Our favorite Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt, is back with a resounding “yes” and more.
Question: My parents hate my girlfriend—especially my mother. She is constantly telling me that she doesn’t trust her and that I can do better. My father just sits there. I know I am going to marry this woman—I have already bought the ring. My mother knows as well and just keeps telling me that I am making a huge mistake.
My girlfriend is amazing, she is taking everything with stride and is bending over backwards to win them over (see why I want marry this woman!) What can I do? She doesn’t deserve this.
Answer: OMG. I am so sorry you’re both going through this. Here is some food for thought:
1. You’re born with your family, yet you get to CHOOSE your friends and beloved. This may be a part of your evolution to be in allowance of your parents opinions, and yet drop into your deepest truth and chose your heart’s desires, even in the face of disapproval.
2. Moms can be jealous. Sometimes moms don’t define their worth from the inside out, and put unnecessary pressure on their kids to define their worth. They end up controlling them and feeling a loss of power, connection and control when another woman comes on the scene who appears to take their source of enough’ness away from them.
Your mom may be afraid that she’s separating from you and has no sense of worth to stand on without you. Forgive her. Yet don’t be controlled by this. It’s a time of growth for your mom too.
3. Protect your girlfriend/finance. She doesn’t need to be subjected to abuse. Nor does she need to do cartwheels to be liked. You two are who you are. In love. So be it. No need to be jerks either. Just let things ride. Take some space. Let it go. What you resist persists so instead exhale and spend more time just the two of you, not requiring agreement understanding or approval to be enough, be safe, be peaceful.
Visualize your happy life together so that their behavior doesn’t trigger you and you’re filled with what’s possible together. Your family will either step up or step aside, and do your best to be in allowance no matter what they choose. Judgement of you or them will hinder the flow. Being open, accepting and moving forward will allow for miracles.
WAY easier said than done? YES! That’s why God made me. xoox I am a potent force of healing and support in letting go and reclaiming your freedom to live authentically and deliciously.
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You’re beginning the rest of your whole life. A solid foundation means the difference between heaven and hell.
Huge blessings to you as you evolve, like a piece of coal through pressure, into a brilliant diamond, great love,