You begin to notice some patterns in your romance, realizing your partner may want out of the relationship. What to do? Listen to Allana Pratt, of course.
I think my girlfriend wants out of this relationship as everything is a break-up fight. I didn’t make the bed one morning and she went off the deep end. I tried to make up for it and did the dishes and again, she lost her ever lovin’ mind! Should I just bite the bullet and do it myself instead of dealing with this nonsense?
It makes me sad to hear what you are dealing with. It makes me sad to know she’s so upset. It makes me sad to learn that instead of talking about what’s really going on, that there are fights.
It reminds me of a couple, my neighbors when I first moved to LA 18 years ago. They were both great people, yet they fought all the time. I was just learning to be a coach and yet I could clearly see they weren’t talking about what was REALLY going on.
One of them ended up having an affair. The other found out. They immediately divorced. The other one was so relieved that they had an excuse to leave them. I was shocked. I asked, Why didn’t you just talk about it and set each other free rather than avoid it… which led to so much heartache? They answered that they just didn’t know how to bring it up…
Perhaps your girlfriend doesn’t know how to bring up why she’s really upset. I don’t think it’s really about the bed… you know? What if you sat her down and told her 1. you loved her and value your relationship 2. you notice she’s upset and you really want to understand why so you can make up for the damage done and get connected again and 3. that you think it would be awesome if you two could create an even more solid foundation than you ever thought possible so you two could soar/rock/thrive.
I have amazing relationship tools, practices, rituals that nourish and grow relationships that I give my couple clients.
Bottom line: if you have this communication and you still break up, at least you’ve grown, evolved and will have an even stronger relationship next time. Best case, she’s really touched that you care enough to discover what’s going on and you BOTH learn how to communicate in a more healthy manner and take your relationship to the next level of joy, erotic pleasure, and heart felt connection.
Need help personally ending patterns that are sabotaging this relationship, or require support as a couple to truly thrive (knowing that if you break up without having grown you’re both going to attract the same person, just in a different body xox), I’d love to hear from you. To see if you’re a fit to be invited to work with me, apply here for a complementary strategy session together: AllanaPratt.com/connect and be sure to say MeetMindful sent you!
Bottom line, don’t throw in the towel until you’ve learned the lessons this relationship is providing, you CAN change this.
Great love, A xoox