in: Dating & Relationships

She’s Had 13 Lovers!! Should I Even Date Her?

You’re a little (a lot) surprised by the number of lovers she’s had. What’s more, now you don’t know if you should date her. Allana Pratt to the rescue.

Question: I met this woman and we hit it off. I have a rule that I like to know your sexual history before we get intimate. Well she shared – boy did she share – 13 guys! While I (believe) I kept my reaction to a minimum, I just don’t know if I want to go anywhere with this. Am I overreacting?


I love that you have values and guidelines for your self before you get intimate.

It sounds like this woman enjoys sex and has had 13 lovers… Be honest, how does that make you feel? Does that make you judge you that you’re not good enough or judge her as being slutty? Is it possible that those were 13 amazing experiences that supported her in becoming the fabulous woman she is today?

What would you think of me if I told you I had 134 lovers? Kidding. But did you instantly go into judgment of me? I haven’t had that many, but I have had more than 13. I’m grateful for every experience. The good, the bad, the ugly… and the occasional sacred divine erotically blissful one…. which is what I wish for you.

I’m not right or wrong and you’re not right or wrong about how many people a person ought to sleep with. It’s a personal choice that we need not justify to anyone. So be yourself and find someone who’s a fit with your values to share your life with.

For support in releasing any shame, for confidence in allowing your sacred erotic nature to be fully communicated and expressed with your lover, for coming home to the noble badass you truly are, download my complementary report and video series for you called Become a King and attract your mate by being the totality of who you are.

Great love, endless blessings, Allana xoxo


This piece was originally published with the Good Men Project; republished with the kindest permission. 

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About the Author

allana pratt bio imageAllana Pratt: Featured on CBS, TLC, FOX; coach to celebrities, a cum laude graduate of Columbia, Allana’s a single mom who triumphed over an internal war of body shame and sexual guilt that was destroying her confidence, joy and softness. Now, author of three books, she pole dances for pleasure, and knows ‘When Mama’s happy, everybody’s happy!’ She inspires women to embrace their sacred erotic nature to attract all the love and attention they choose. She heals men’s emasculated hearts, cures their ‘nice guy’ and awakens their noble badass honoring of women. Thousands flock to her sexy empowering show, Intimate Conversations LIVE. She’s here to end sexual violence on the planet, have stupid amounts of joy as a mother, ooze sensuality and inspire reverence for our exquisite sexual nature. For your free report & video series, go to Get Her To Say Yes.

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