When you’re hoping to expand your sexual horizons, a delicate approach is often best. Wondering “what are the chances”? Allana Pratt gives her two cents.
Question:
My girlfriend is very comfortable in her sexuality and I think it is totally hot. She talks about women, how attractive they are, and even which ones she would date if she was a dude. How much of a chance do you think I have to get her to do a threesome?
Answer:
Yes, I agree when someone is comfortable with their sexuality it IS totally hot. Freedom of expression, not caring what others think, following oneâs authentic desires, letting Life Force Sexual Energy pour though our being without limitations⊠yes, very inspiring and hot indeed!
It does sound like your girlfriend is open to enjoying the beauty of women and is even able to look at women from her masculine energy âwhich ones she would date if she was a dudeâ.
I find it curious that youâre asking ME about your chances of having a threesome. Why arenât you asking HER? Youâve let me know sheâs âvery comfortableâ with her sexuality⊠why wouldnât she be open to this conversation, love?
Are you simply nervous or inexperienced about HOW to ask her? About the ramifications if she thinks youâre not into her? If sheâll get jealous? Or if sheâs willing so long as she gets two guys if you get two girls? What are your deeper concerns, great man?
Do you have a history of being able to talk about intense or uncomfortable things with success or ease? What a great opportunity to practice more honesty, more intimacy, more authenticity together! I would simply honor her by saying just what you told me, that her comfort with her sexuality turns you on. And then ask her if by commenting on dating women if she was a dude, was she meaning that sheâs like to explore the possibility of a threesome?
Then shut up, breathe deeply and see what she says!
I have no judgment about monogamy, polyamory, etc for couples, just that I strongly recommend you set clear rules, boundaries, safe sex, honest communications and space for non judgmental sharing because thereâs no going back. One of my guests on my radio show
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Huge delicious blessings, Allana oxox
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