For men with erectile dysfunction, intimacy can feel so vulnerable. Allana Pratt challenges us to stop pointing fingers, though, and start searching within.

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Question:

Why the apparent double standard when it comes to relationship between men and women? It appears that women have little tolerance for their men when they have ED problems or other related trouble in getting hard while in bed. Yet, the men need to be understanding and appreciative when women have problems with their sexuality or are just not in the mood. We need to be sympathetic and understanding to her; yet, she will not be so when the man has problems.

Answer:

It sounds like you’ve been on the receiving end of some judgment, yes? It seems the women you’ve attracted aren’t understanding or compassionate, yes? Yet these women are unwilling to take responsibility that they too have issues, yes? How frustrating and unfair.

I am sorry for your experience and I have an invitation.

How much of their judgment is a reflection of your self-judgment? I say this with total mastery as a coach, yet also total vulnerability as a woman. While this is a business related example, a had a streak in one week where three clients who signed contracts to coach with me decided not to pay. Hugely frustrating when I showed up for them, gave my all to them, committed to them… and upon reflection with my coach (Note: never hire a coach or therapist who isn’t also being coached or going to therapy) I discovered that I wasn’t keep my word to me. I would work on days I said I wouldn’t. I would miss dance class or my meditation time if a client really needed me.

I wasn’t valuing me and neither was the Universe.

Is it possible that you are judging you about your sexuality and so is the Universe in the form of these women? What if you decided to heal this internally through a series of coaching sessions and became the field of compassion, vulnerability, strength, authenticity, welcoming sexual adventure, and sacred erotic discovery? That sounds sexy to me AND the kind of man that would attract quality, emotionally mature, conscious women with whom to have a hot healthy intimate long term relationship, yes?

If you’re in agreement and a 10 out of 10 ready to shift this now, I’d be honored to be your coach so you can have the results you desire. Email my [email protected] Subj line: MeetMindful Sent Me describing who you are regarding the question I answered on this video. Let’s connect for a strategy session and see if you are a fit for me to support you. You honestly hold ALL the power on this one, great man.

Deep love, Allana xoxo