in: Dating & Relationships

Is there actually a secret of attraction? What am I missing?

You know attraction when you feel it, but is there any way to make yourself a bit more… magnetic? Bryan Reeves says the secret of attraction is simple.

Question: Is there actually a secret of attraction. What am I missing??

What are you missing?

Only everything.

Just kidding.

(Not really.)

The very nature of that question suggests you believe there’s some external thing—some ancient “secret”—that if someone would just cough it up, you would finally be able to have that wife/husband/life of your wildest, deepest dreams!

There isn’t.

But then again, there is. Bear with me and just keep reading.

Yeah, there are cosmetic changes you could make to your wardrobe, hair, posture, conversational approach, etc. that would have people see you differently and therefore respond differently. No doubt.

However, no “attraction-strategy” can even begin to touch the explosive attraction-factor you will create in your life if you just take fully to heart what I’m about to tell you.

Here’s the ultimate ancient secret to attracting the partner of your dreams:

Just get on with creating an exquisite life for yourself every day.

That’s it.

The most attractive person in any room is the one who absolutely loves everything about their life.

The least attractive person in a room is the one who doesn’t enjoy their work, who doesn’t like the choices they’ve made and continue to make, who focuses on what they don’t like about their parents, exes, body, bank account, etc.

So, keep dating—just don’t expect the person you finally like who also likes you will rescue you from a life you don’t love. They won’t. What they will do is eventually become another reason your life doesn’t work if you’re living a life that doesn’t deeply work for you.

Every single day—from tiny choices like what to eat to the big ones like what work you do—make those choices add up to EXTRAORDINARY LIVING.

That’s the best way to attract EXTRAORDINARY LOVE.

About the Author:

Bryan Reeves

A former US Air Force Captain turned Author / Coach / Speaker, Bryan Reeves has triumphed through multiple dark nights of the soul after hurling himself into the transformational fires of intimate relationship over and over again. Bryan now coaches men, women and couples in creating thriving lives and relationships. He is a regular blog contributor to Good Men Project, Elephant Journal, Raw Attraction Magazine and just released an enlightening online program called "Love, Sex, Relationship Magic" … to eliminate relationship ignorance forever! Connect with Bryan at