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Numerology: A Tool for Love?

Numerology is a system which looks at the significance of numbers is a person’s life. Gerry Ellen explores whether or not we can apply this system to love.

The designation of how things line up since we were born has always intrigued me—whether it mimics astrology, synchronicity, tarot, or numerology. There are oodles of methods to achieve the roots of how our bodies, souls, and minds intertwine in this human existence of ours… achieving some sort of partnership dynamic with a new love, or possibly an already-there person takes some doing. It requires the deepest of the deep vulnerabilities to be able to remain for the long haul.

Baring ourselves and who we are—not just on paper, but in real life—is a veritable way to mate forever.

I’m no stranger to numerology.

As a matter of fact, based on my own curiosity, I’ve charted out some previous relationships and potential lovers using this very divine thing. I have no formal training in the mechanics of how it all works, but I found it to be interesting and fairly accurate (with a hint of daydreaming magic) to wonder who would be most compatible with my life path numbers and the adjoining numbers that comprise my chemistry.

Is it all legit? I think so, and here’s why:

Numerology is a mystical mathematical coincidence. It is a numerical study of valuing words, names, ideas—an art form, if you will. There are many who believe, and then there are skeptics who disregard or don’t understand. Either option is valid, yet numerology has been passed down for centuries as a practical way of aligning ourselves more with the divine world.

Often dubbed “superstition” and not having any basis for outcome in the logical world, the old religious philosophers embraced it wholeheartedly, and even charted their lives based on the numerology method. Scientists and physicists have studied the coincidental lining up of numbers with letters and applied them to theories of their own.

In the post-modern world (aka. popular culture), numerology has been tested in comedy scenarios and personal relationship situations when all else has failed. If someone is hard pressed to involve themselves in a relationship based on numbers, it might be matched with looks of curiosity or sneers, take your pick.

As a tool for love, the “numbers game” all boils down to luck and timing. It is popular amongst the spiritually driven, the astrologers who intertwine several modalities, and the quantum theorists who derive conclusions for equations that are so far out of this world, one has to delve deep into the driving force.

To study numerology is to explore into the psyche of coincidence, an occult of sorts; life path numbers, divine path numbers, soul calling numbers, inner dream numbers, master numbers, and of course, the birthday number. Every category plays a role in numerology.

Pythagoras, who invented his own theorem, was said to bring the patterning of numbers to our generation. Carl Jung was a believer and obsessive scientist over the mental archetypes; those primitive symbols that helped him coin the synchronicity phenomenon and brought the level of coincidental occurrences to the forefront. Numerology played a vast role in how aligning events were 100 percent true in bridging the conscious to the subconscious. Whereas the levels of love are often tended to by people who are healed of past traumas and dramas, who are compatible through heart and soul, and who revere in the one-on-one contact versus charts and maps, numerology can definitely be helpful in preparing a partner for what’s to come, or what is already there. If the main character from the I Love Lucy Show back in the 1960’s dabbled in numerology in one hilarious episode, then I think we can lighten up about comparing and contrasting, and figure out a way to be together, even if the numbers don’t line up.

To arrive at the destinations in number calculations goes something like this, showing the most important and prevalent one, the Life Path number:

First, reduce each unit of your birth date (month/day/year) to a single-digit number or a Master number (Master numbers are 11, 22 and 33). Next, add each of the resulting digits (or Master numbers) together and reduce the total again to a single digit, or a Master number.

For example, if you were born on October 12, 1936, you would calculate your Life Path as Number Five.

Month: October is the 10th month of the year. 10 reduces to 1 (1 + 0 = 1).

Day: The date of birth is 12. 12 reduces to 3 (1 + 2 = 3).

Year: The year of birth is 1936. 1936 reduces to 1 (1 + 9 + 3 + 6 = 19, then 1 + 9 = 10 and finally 1 + 0 = 1).

Now add the resulting single-digit numbers: 1 + 3 + 1 = 5.

The Life Path number in this case is 5.

A final look at the most relevant number for love is the Heart’s Desire Number, your *soul urge* number. Here’s how to achieve that particular sum (with the vowels and corresponding numbers below):

Add together the numerical values of all of the vowels in your name—first, middle and last. If you have more than one middle name and you were given it at birth, include it. For example, Elizabeth Marie Rogers would extract the vowels in her name and add them up:  Screen Shot 2016-07-13 at 3.39.52 PM

5 + 9 + 1 + 5 +1 + 9 + 5 + 6 + 5 = 46

She would then keep reducing until a single digit is reached: 4+6 = 10; 1+0 = 1

Elizabeth Marie Rogers’ Heart’s Desire Number is 1.

  • A = 1
  • E = 5
  • I = 9
  • O = 6
  • U = 3
  • Y = 7

When we combine each of the above methods of numerology, mixing numbers with vowels and consonants, we might be pleasantly surprised at how in alignment we truly are in this crazy world of ours.

Love is that special kind of verb that requires every ounce of who we are to show our true self and be all that we can to another. Numerology, while fun and engaging in spirit might also be another helpful tool to cast light on a beautifully positive partnership to see if the numbers might have had a synchronous hand in the equation. Take a chance and explore. If anything, it’s worth the energy to adventure into the unknown of another philosophical realm to give us all the feels. Love is always worth that, and more.


*Elizabeth Marie Rogers chart reference:

About the Author:

Gerry Ellen

Gerry Ellen is an author, creative storyteller, and wellness advocate. She enjoys sharing her experiences of life, love, and all things meaningful and healthy through words and images. She is a regular contributor to MeetMindful, Be You Media Group, Tattooed Buddha, and Rebelle Society. As a former featured columnist on elephant journal and Light Workers World, she considers her love of nature and the outdoors, heart-centered connections, friends and family, and traveling to explore and expand as the epicenter of her world. She is extremely driven with her service work through 8 Paws Wellness with her dog, Scout. Gerry Ellen has authored and published two books, Ripple Effects (March 2012) and A Big Piece of Driftwood (April 2014), which are both available on


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