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Using the Law of Attraction for Love

The road to love is a winding one, but using the law of attraction remind us of our True North. Gerry Ellen reflects on the practice that is manifestation.

The imminent feeling of love goes so far beyond any other emotion expressed. When our hearts pound, our faces get flushed, and the rest of our body does an internal (and most likely, an external) happy dance, we know that love has occupied all the fibers of our bodies.

There are amazing hormones released into our bloodstreams when we have been consumed with love—it’s not for the faint of heart. As a matter of fact, the real and true and beautifully expressed love is reserved for those who have done their own internal work, and have managed to attract the quality of adoration they are putting forth themselves.

It is this kind of delightful attraction that, when it happens, there really is nothing quite like it in this world.

Attracting a Lover

Attracting a permanent lover takes dedication and patience. It isn’t so much going out and mingling as much as it is embodying the very type of partner you wish to share space with.

If the homework has been done, the person you align with the most will come into your life at just the right time. It really is a timing thing, too. Love doesn’t come when we are in our shadowed self. It comes when we are in our loving self, the kind of care and compassion we reserve just for us.

It is not selfish (at all). It is a necessary means to showing your best human traits and open heart.

The Law of Attraction

There was a book published years ago called “The Secret.” Every spiritual guru and celebrity-type author, not to mention the iconic personas who know and have lived love, discussed “The Law of Attraction.” It became the mantra for that time period, and the many years that followed.

I read the book. I watched the video. I even listened to the tapes while cooking. I was hell-bent on learning how these masters could spew out their chosen words on attracting a perfect partner. It was so long ago that I took part in this internal discussion, yet everyday thereafter I had this sense that if I cared for others with love the same exact way I cared for myself, then eternal love is not far behind.

And sure enough, it worked.

The tricky part is in keeping the love, while both partners are continuing to learn and grow together. I still had work to do, much to my dismay.

The Heart & Soul of it All

Fast forward to now, and this so-called Law of Attraction is about the heart and soul too. The heart has to be on board, pounding and emoting, and dancing like never before. The soul has to have recognition and depth in spirit.

If there is a healthy balance between the two entities in our person, then love comes at just that moment. The universe has all the keys, we simply have to remain willing and open to how it will show up. Sometimes it’s not what we expect. More often than not, it can be a different personality, yet someone who is there to mirror and show us more of what we need or can handle.

Either way, the love that occurs is a co-mingling of the profound and complex, and then it continues to go steps further. Once the flowing of two people happens there is nothing that can stand in the way, and this is all based on their basking in the love.

We need love, every single one of us. The allure that goes into it, whether straight up animal magnetism, or seduction, or various ways of appeal, the end result is the same. Loving another person through our own eyes and body is a true manifestation of the intentions we set forth at one time or another.

Cupid’s arrow knows who is best for us; we just have to be prepared to accept and embrace.

“To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.” —David Viscott

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About the Author:

Gerry Ellen

Gerry Ellen is an author, creative storyteller, and wellness advocate. She enjoys sharing her experiences of life, love, and all things meaningful and healthy through words and images. She is a regular contributor to MeetMindful, Be You Media Group, Tattooed Buddha, and Rebelle Society. As a former featured columnist on elephant journal and Light Workers World, she considers her love of nature and the outdoors, heart-centered connections, friends and family, and traveling to explore and expand as the epicenter of her world. She is extremely driven with her service work through 8 Paws Wellness with her dog, Scout. Gerry Ellen has authored and published two books, Ripple Effects (March 2012) and A Big Piece of Driftwood (April 2014), which are both available on


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